As a professional woman, I have been noticing a whole lots of things not only about Canadian men but also about foreign men—I read the Human Rights Watch reports whenever I have spare time and that is how I have learned about the foreign men. Most of them are busy throwing women out of their homes and jobs by making sure that they are never introduced into their network or by mistreating them mentally or physically. For example, a male friend of mine never invites me to any weddings he attends; this way, I have never been introduced to any of his friends. It is also becoming common to ignore professional communication. For instance, I was recently invited for an interview by a Canadian company. But the guy who was supposed to interview me never made it. Furthermore, he never replied to my email messages. I finally removed him from my LinkedIn account, which has over 500 contacts, simply because he failed to reach out to me within two weeks. In another example of workplace harassment, I reached out to the CEO to resolve a dispute that a new senior employee was causing; and, the CEO never replied back. Instead he stayed on my LinkedIn for several months while I struggled to find out what The Ministry of Labour says about such abuse. Finally, I had to remove his account from my LinkedIn account as well.
There are several other examples of workplace abuse ranging from unnecessarily overriding my authority and expertise to pressuring me to do more work for a lower payment. Most of the times, this abuse was reported to someone influential or some authority figure; and, even then no fruitful action was taken. For example, I once reported this low payment deal to an HR person; and, she said that it is up to the employer to offer you a wage and that it must match or be above the minimum wage. I felt that by saying something like this, she was participating in creating the wage gap that female Canadian workers have to fight while working in Canada. This is how HR personnel are breaking down the real story into smaller unrealistic fragments and then feeding it back to the victims. Truth is that some of them are unaware of the wage gap and that is why they just sit there and justify things instead. I feel that if I tell some trustworthy people about what is going on, then they are more likely not going to utilize the services offered by these professionals or their businesses. Its like when Eric decides to call his girlfriend Amanda’s friend Alexa; and Alexa knows that Eric is not reliable because honest Amanda said so; and, so Alexa hangs up on Eric and warns the rest of the girls that he is looking for a date.
This situation is ongoing; and, I believe that it is common in Canada because other women are also complaining about this. If you are in the position to help us, then please do so by applying political pressure or by openly stating on your social media or among your friends and acquaintances that you are not comfortable about this. I am very scared for myself because I feel that my psychological safety has been repeatedly threatened by professional men. What if I finally stop applying to jobs because I have started feeling very harassed and need some time away? What if I keep doing this every now and then and thus keep missing some good chances? What if I ended up sleeping on streets when I get older because I failed to save up sufficient cash for retirement? Obviously, abusers don’t see through all of this because they are rash and irresponsible. I can clearly see Canada changing into something like the trains of Mumbai, India. There are going to be more and more accidents and mental wreckage in the future as men learn how to run this train. If you don’t trust me, read about a recent survey and hear Justin Trudeau’s brief comments about workplace harassment.
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