Note: Before you read this post, please note these thoughts do not apply to the good men who don’t like abusing and using women.
The correct answer to this question is NO. I say this because women have been harassed and abused for a very long while; and, most countries are so hyper-responsible that they are forcing women to create and lead the #MeToo campaign. I can see efforts like #MeToo campaigns as example of hyper-responsibility where women are expected to do more—I fail to see if they have failed at something already.
Before I tell you what men are learning from the women, I must share something that I have learned from experience and by having conversations with other women.
In Canada, some educated professional men are misusing women: they abuse them during interviews and at work; they spy on their campaigns by asking too many questions; they gang up on them in an unfair and unprofessional manner; and, they do not answer their questions and keep secrets. By destabilizing the network and learning of the women, these men are creating gaps in their resumes and skills while increasing the wage gap.
According to What Men Can Learn From Women“, women teach men how to listen better; how to share empathy; how to communicate and collaborate effectively; how to think in a holistic manner; and, how to trust one’s guts. According to Gene Hammett’s article, “What Men Can Learn From Women Leaders“, men learn how to engage in new initiatives and how to multitask by using assistance and teaching offered by women.
If you have taught some men some stuff but they have not returned the favor, then please slowly demote them. Put a tag on them and remove them from all your personal activities like events, gatherings, or parties. I am also using this strategy to get rid of leeches!
I wonder if women need to demonstrate some tougher ways of disciplining men like a real or authentic slap on the face. I mean are you sure that the men (referring only to those who actually did something mean) who are now targets of the #MeToo campaigns had ZERO access to the women who could teach them something valuable? Truth is that a lot of women just like me don’t want to hit or even say something rude even to their aggressors. Therefore, their offenders must understand that campaigns like #MeToo and clever tactics like “slow demotion” are still considered a slap on the face or strict discipline.
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