I have spent some years of my life in Pakistan. When I was a teenager, I wrote a powerful piece in my personal diary; I was still sitting in my high school when I composed this. I wrote this to make sense out of my thoughts that had scattered after I read a news article about rape of some Pakistani woman. I jotted down my thoughts and shared this with my friends. Within minutes, a teacher came to me and forcibly took my diary from me. She made it look like that I had written something evil and negative by adding stigma in my mind as well as those who were watching or participating in this cruel act. I still feel shocked when I think about how I had this freaky experience when I was just learning to communicate. I guess I was in bad hands back then! Anyways, I stayed true to myself and my needs when I grew older. Here in Canada, I can share written content; but, I know that the Canadian women are not really free in many ways.
I believe writing is the most effective method for handling rapists and rape cultures because rape is a very sensitive issue and there is less support for victims.
- The current Canadian justice system is filled with flaws; and, testimonies of the victims can be easily used against them or the cases can be deemed unfounded. This is true for several other countries.
- Most of the abusers know their victims up close; and, rapists are usually masters of emotional blackmail. This is why it is easier for victims to leave the city and contacts of their abusers and start a new life.
- Most rape victims find it very difficult to acknowledge what actually happened to them. Read article “Why most rape victims never acknowledge what happened”.
- Some rape victims are actually victims of domestic abuse and attempting to throw a rapist in jail could mean jailing a family member as well.
- Sometimes it takes several years for the rape victim to come to terms and learn about what actually happened. Not all rape victims are educated about things like “Stockholm Syndrome”.
- Sometimes it is very tough to receive support from family members. This could daunt even the most independent type of women.
This is why you should use writing to channel your thoughts and trauma:
- Writing thoughts and experiences can heal the trauma.
- It is possible to hide critical details and publish the work as fiction.
- It is possible to overcome issues that caused the actual rape through writing: for example, the victim was unemployed when she walked into the wrong hands.
- It is possible to shed light on society’s ills that have caused the rape.
- Whenever victim’s trauma returns, all one has to do to feel empowered is open the book he/she wrote and start reading.
- Victims can share their experiences without fear that someone else would inject their toxic thoughts into their victimized mind.
- Victims’ work will stay in responsible hands of those who seek knowledge even after the victims have passed away.
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