I was going over Dr. Shadee Elmasry’s blog post “#SafinaQ&A: Insight behind Women Being the Majority in Jannah & Jahannam?” where the hadith “There will be more women than men in both Heaven and Hell” was being discussed. I was not content with the explanation that was being offered here so I looked up more information. I volunteer to run a Facebook page, “Forgotten Femmes” as well as counsel abused women if they approach me for advice; I have also survived domestic, workplace, and sexual abuse. I know that comments like the one mentioned here can cause abuse of women when left without context and explanation—this happens due to the teaching that men get more than women for some reason. This is why I am looking into this in detail!
After a bit of work, I found an explanation that makes more sense to me.
There will be more women in Hell.
According to SeekersGuidance’s article, “In What Context Did the Prophet Say ‘Women Make up the Majority of the Inhabitants of Hell’?” this hadith was meant to be playful since the Prophet was just encouraging women to issue charity. Its like when a great writer makes fun of someone just for the moment in order to get something important done. Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) was just a guy like other guys! He had a sense of a humor which he used while communicating with both men and women.
There will be more women in Heaven
The answer to this question is quite simple. I know that some scholars think that this refers to the fact that houris are only females. However, my personal experiences have taught me otherwise. I am a lucid dreamer. I have learned from Islamic text that lucid dreaming is halal; dreams can come from angels and God and not just the self; and, our souls are not in our body when we are asleep. During my lucid dreams, I have been able to form sexual relationships with multiple male dream characters who are very smart and handsome; whether the relationship will form or not is not always in my control since other energies are playing a huge role in making this happen. Having sex during dreams is rare; but, it still happens sometimes. Most of the time, I connect with male dream characters to just chat or hang out. I have discussed this phenomenon clearly in blog post, “Be Moderate About Lucid Dream Sex“. If this is happening while my soul is not in my body, then this will definitely happen when I die and (God willingly) enter heaven. Here is another relevant explanation of this hadith. Read “Are all ‘houris’ female?”
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