Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Overcome Fear

COVID-19 outbreak is causing fear among people; and, I think that given the fast pace of our society, most of us don’t know what fear really means and how to properly manage it. Fear occurs when you are faced with uncertainty.  It can be pointing to a fact or it may not be pointing to a reality. Either way fear provides valuable information. There are many ways of coping with your fear. Here are some helpful tips:

  • Alter your perception of your fear since fear is something that can be changed into a strength.
  • Nail evidence if facts are causing fear and react to manage. If facts are not causing fear, then meditate on the present moments in order to reconnect with reality.
  • Ground yourself by using a variety of methods such as finishing a large project in smaller chunks or throwing a dance party in your room.
  • Be grateful of what you have. Create a Gratitude List. Read article, “How to Make a Gratitude List“.
  • Repeat mantras that interest you. There are all sorts of mantras out there such as mantras for fear, depression, stress, anxiety, and mindset.
  • Prevent overwhelming thoughts by using coping strategies like postponing unnecessary things, meditating, and leaning on friends. See article, “10 Ways to Stop Feeling Overworked and Overwhelmed“.

As you learn how to manage your fear, learn to pace yourself properly. Do not try to perform a lot of these strategies because this way your attempts will be ineffective in nature. Just go slow and modify your usual work routine with methods that actually attract your attention.

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Changes I Have Made In My Life To Handle COVID-19

Living in a lockout is very taxing for me because I derive a lot of my warmth from people. Before the lockout, staying indoors all the time was a complete “NO”! So I have made some creative adjustments for myself.

  1. I attend live events where I get a chance to interact with people.
  2. I have bought a Guitar; and, I intend to learn it soon.
  3. I draw and color my drawings; this helps me relax.
  4. I sleep well by listening to sleep sounds like sounds of a purring cat or rain. These are available through YouTube and an application called Calm.
  5. I recite mantras to calm myself and feel back in control.
  6. I have started praying again, which was a habit that actually took a big hit after I was raped.
  7. I am working on a brand new creative project, which requires a lot of commitment. I have started organizing the entire thing. Its going to take lots of thinking and strategizing before it is implemented. Then I will be able to surprise my fans with a brand new Patreon account or something similar to it! Yaaay!

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Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Prevent Domestic Abuse

Some days ago, I had an odd dream. I saw myself with some other women who were feeling neglected and abused. They were huddled together like they were protecting each other. I went close to them and comforted them. Then, I think, I took a couple of women to a safe location. When I woke up, I did not fully realize why I was dreaming this way. I tried throwing this thought out of my mind for some while since I was busy handling the changes that were being caused by this pandemic. I found online that domestic abuse cases are on rise due to COVID-19 lockout. I wanted to ignore this topic because I was tired; but, today something compelled me to sit down and write this blog post.

Coronavirus outbreak is a very special case. We are going through a very traumatic event; people tend to ignore their real emotions and feelings during traumatic events, which is dangerous because this is how emotions and feelings tend to pile up and become even more stronger. This is actually very wrong dangerous because this way the human mind forgets moderation when letting things out. Right now, both victim and abuser must realize what they are going through. This will promote empathy only in some cases; in other cases, this will only create a game of power and control.

Here are some tips about how to survive.

  1. Stay positive and repeat helpful mantras like, “I have gone through worse. This will pass”.
  2. Involve one or more friends. Talk to them over the phone or internet given that you have access to these. Otherwise, leave a call for help when the abuser does not suspect that you would do so. For example, tell your pharmacist.
  3. If you feel the abusers will stop due to a mild threat like “I will tell someone”, then tell your abuser(s) that.
  4. Call 9/11 if something severe happens. If you can’t talk because you are too afraid or scattered to do so, then answer the operator’s questions by pressing keys on your phone. This is called the Silent solution.
  5. Consider moving to a friend’s place if possible.
  6. Do easy things that reduce abuse, such as staying inside your room.
  7. Contact your local agency for help. Only some shelters are currently open in Canada. For example, all the family violence emergency shelters of Manitoba are going to remain open during the coronavirus outbreak.
  8. Get any funds that your country might be offering right now. For example, Canada is offering aid to homeless and women who are escaping gender-based violence.
  9. Document what is being done and when exactly. This should help you stop abuse as well as identify any helpful patterns.
  10. You are the expert! You know how to handle your situation! You need to trust your basic instincts while handling your abuse.

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Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Perform Oil Therapy

Most of us are locked inside our homes due to the Coronavirus outbreak; and, some of us do not have a gym or motivation to exercise inside their home. So what do you do to feel positive enough to engage in exercises indoors and allow blood to run through your body?

This is a lesson you will learn if you have worked with a Physiotherapist. In the clinic, they massage your body with cream/oil and then let you exercise in the gym. The massage allows blood to circulate properly, which improves the mood and movement. After this, exercising is easy. Oh! you might want to change your exercise routine a bit like include stuff like Yoga for Better Sleep or Tai Chi for Weight Loss.

I usually do two different types of massages at home.

Scalp Massage: This is good for your brain and body and not just your hair. I use a combination of Amla oil, Olive oil, and Coconut oil  to protect my hair and scalp. Also, this combination removes headaches pretty well. My headaches literally vanish when I use this particular combo; and, I also sleep very well after this activity.

Body Massage: I massage my back, shoulders, neck, arms, and legs with Coconut oil. Coconut oil is used in some Chiropractic clinics because it relieves pain fast, which is why it is good for tense muscles. My aches vanish and my mood improves after using this oil.

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Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Repeat Mantras That Appeal To You

Psychotherpists suggest mantras to deal with severe stuff like rape trauma, depression, and anxiety. I love going outdoors so I am very anxious due to the lockout and isolation caused due to Coronavirus. I was having trouble sleeping a bit due to this; so I started repeating Mantras. I usually get very relaxed and sleepy with the help of these mantras. Check out article “52 Mantras for Natural Anxiety Relief“. From this list, my favourite mantras are “My breathing will set me free; just breathe” and “I will release what I cannot change”.

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Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Sleep Well

Proper sleep hygeine is very important especially during a crisis. I learned this while managing a concussion.

Here is a handout about sleep hygeine, which is provided by Sleep Foundation. You can also download applications like “Calm” or listen to Sleep Stories on YouTube. My favourite way of falling asleep is to listen to rain sounds. YouTube has lots of versions of rain sounds including “rain on roof” and “rain in village”. My most loved rain sounds are provided by YouTube user “The Relaxed Guy”. His videos range in length, which helps to relax during different routines. For example, run the 2 hour long video when you are reading a book; and, run 12 hour long video when you are going to bed. Check out his YouTube video “Gentle Night Rain 12 HOURS – Sleep, Insomnia, Meditation, Relaxing, Study“.

Sweet Dreams!

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Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Protect The Men

Leslie Young’s article “Why are more men dying of COVID-19?” discusses that mostly men are dying from the Coronavirus. The article states that the exact reason for this is unknown but it is possible that men’s habits like smoking are responsible for this.

To help manage the Coronavirus outbreak, make sure to protect the men around you. Share the article “How To Handle The Coronavirus Outbreak“and the tips provided under the category “Coranavirus” with men who are part of your circle. Make sure they don’t end up doing anything unhealthy due to frustration. Talk to them if they need to talk or direct them to a counselor if the issue is severe. Share this very beneficial article with them, “Thoughts for Men on coping with Social Distancing and Isolation“.

I am hoping that things will slowly go in the right direction this way!

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Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Use Your Sense Of Humour

When I was a child, my uncles used to tickle me a lot—may God bless two of my very funny uncles who have passed away. I felt very safe around them so I used to make sure that they would tickle me. So I had a strong sense of humour when I grew older. Now I use humour but only when I feel safe enough to do so—I think a mix of strong empathy and ENFP personality type dictate this.

I know Coronavirus is here so everyone is jailed in their own houses. I have been holding on as best as I can; but, today I felt that I was going to break down. I mean I am an ENFP. I need people around me otherwise I might get way too frustrated. True! I am living inside a very racist country; but, the human energy means a lot to my brain and soul; and, I know that there are some good people out there. Anyways, I actually realized this about myself a long while ago; and, I also patiently taught myself how to pursue myself to be happy if I get lonely for some reason.

Mimicking is a fun technique that I sometimes use when I am super-bored. Following these steps will help you perform this on your own:

Step 1: Sit or stand in front of a mirror

Step 2: Run a video of your favourite person; for example, a poet, a celebrity, or a friend

Step 3: Mimic that person. If the person you are mimicking is usually too serious, then try messing up while impersonating that person. One way that I mess up my routines is by being silent and just copying their hand gestures.

Laugh out loud! I have learned to mimic some interesting people this way. I have learned their hand gestures, the way they move their mouth or face, and the way they talk or argue. I can sometimes do this properly and other times I laugh at myself while attempting this. Since I am a writer, acting comes natural to me. One day, I pretended to be a Sultan. I tried doing this without a script and it went horribly. But, I had a laugh because I had wrapped my hair up a bit differently in my blue headscarf and was pretending to wear a royal turban of some sort. I sat on my bed; caressed my blanket while pretending it was some sort of expensive silken fabric; and, harassed some petty commoner (an imaginary friend). Like I said, this one was a big mess but it felt so hilarious. Takhliah! (takhliah means “everyone must leave”).

You can utilize your sense of humour in many ways including reading funny comics, pranking your family members, or writing something funny. So give this idea a shot if you desire. Your reward centres should be going on pretty fast!

Still not in? Read article “Does Humor Make You Live Longer?”  to learn about the benefits of humor.

 

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Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Help For Creatives

When I heard about the Coronavirus outbreak, I worried a lot about the economy. I read about how lots of jobs are being lost; obviously, I worried because this means that the movement of money was going to freeze in some ways even if the government and banks are offering assistance to the people.

To help everyone’s cope with this change, I reviewed things online and found the following helpful articles:

Here Are Some Super-Creative Ways People Are Making Money After Losing Their Jobs Due To The Coronavirus

A go-to guide for creative support during coronavirus

How Creatives Can Stay Sane During The Coronavirus Outbreak

COVID-19 Free Software Assistance Programs

Free Home Licenses And Software Deals For Work-From-Home Pros And Students (Updated)

List of Free Software and Services To Help Remote Working During Coronavirus Outbreak 2020

List of Free Software and Services During Coronavirus Outbreak

Updated: 56 free K-12 resources during coronavirus pandemic

Updated: Free Resources for Schools During COVID-19 Outbreak

65 Free Tools to Help You Through the Coronavirus Pandemic

Free, Online Learning Resources When Coronavirus Closes Schools

Coronavirus COVID-19 Self Isolation or Quarantine? Free Online Classes!

Remember to grab a glass of Lassi, which is an amazing brain food that helps me think and sleep properly. Don’t forget to read the blog post Lassi, An Affordable Summer Drink to learn how to make lots of Lassi for really less.

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Managing Yourself During Coronavirus Outbreak: Using Lists And Setting Goals To Do Something Creative

Your mind is bound to get very hazy during the lockdown. So you need to start a small creative project for yourself. It could be something very personal like raising funds for something you want to do in the future.

To remove the haze from your mind, create a list of tasks you must complete to execute and finally finish this project. Add deadlines next to tasks or use the Eisenhower Matrix to organize things. Listing things and setting SMART goals will help you develop confidence in yourself so that you may move your life forward while handling the realities associated with the Coronavirus outbreak.

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