Framing and Misuse of the Canadian Muslim Women

Note: I have been collecting these ideas slowly over some years by speaking to Muslim women and watching how some Muslim families and the Canadian society have been working together to oppress the Muslim women─some of them offer us victim blaming but appear “accepting” and “loving” in the mosques or inside their communities. I once saved three young Muslim women from domestic abuse and abuse by unknown males; and I escaped a kidnapping attempt by two Black males by frightening them with my cellphone. As you read the rest of this article, know that none of this is fabricated in any way. I learned about the basic idea for the “Buddy System” through a lawyer and started a volunteer group on my own. This group is very small, and it lacks resources and manpower; this is why I am choosing to work only with those victims of abuse who are safe towards me. Some victims of abuse temporarily exhibit very psychotic tendencies, which is why I am careful about whom I should be working with.

Also, note that the Canadian media mostly hires White people so that the other side of the story or correct representation of the facts─the entire story of the Muslims or the colored people as it takes place under the veil of “diversity”─may remain missing. One example of this queer phenomenon is when we read about a Muslim who looted a bank, but we are never told that that individual had PTSD or Stockholm Syndrome and he/she needed psychiatric assistance not jail. You will find lots of such stories online because the mainstream media creates and sells lies. Canadian media is an excellent of the White Saviour Complex where the commentary is provided only to appear good and to uproot and abuse families and communities instead of helping them safely handle chronic societal issues that are there due to ongoing neglect. Journalism and Politics work together, and we all know that some people who indulge in Politics a lot are great at narcissism. They are parenting us like we are children, which is why we aren’t allowed to thoroughly communicate by using the mainstream media. This is why I believe that the Canadian Muslim community needs to be treated for the scary side effects of being constantly gaslighted and mistreated through narcissism.

I have been talking to a couple of Canadian Muslim women who have been suffering from extreme abuse that’s inflicted on them by the Muslim men and their families. So I completed some investigation on my own and found out other similar cases in the community and online. Here is a list of articles that tells you the kind of things that are going on inside the Canadian Muslim community, and it indicates some of the abusive gang dynamics and culture that are being offered by the Canadian society:

The major and more formal portion of this investigation started when a lawyer approached me with regards to the “Buddy System”. He said that he needed the women to do something about this because the men who aren’t victimizers may not know where these abused women are and how they have been kept. So I started talking to some Muslim women and girls and learned a couple of things that struck me as extremely peculiar. Sometimes, I am referring to the possibility that there must be similar cases out there of which I am not aware of by stating “some Muslim women” or “some Muslim men”. Behavior is usually taught and learned in a group setting, which is why I think that cases of domestic abuse that targets women are actually hinting to a much deeper norm where the majority is equally guilty as the minority. Below, I am going to show you how racism and inequality that exists within the the Canadian system and society is working together with the harmful attitudes that are offered by some Muslim families and men to silent the victims─its all a setup; and I know of some of these cases because either a very reliable source informed me or because I have been able to communicate with the victims.

  1. Some Muslim women are being raised inside houses where their men don’t listen to them and a lot of times they suffer due to “lack of cherishment”.
  2. Some influential Muslim women are less likely to get away with requests to get a woman hired than a man even if that request is made to an Imam.
  3. Some educated Muslim graduates are at the risk of being lied and blackmailed by their Muslim employers who are doing all this because others in their circles are leading this way.
  4. Inexperienced, young, and vulnerable Muslim women are being severely mistreated by false White friendsI know two such cases where two Muslim female professionals were being mocked and harassed by some White Canadians who befriended them for a year or more.
  5. Some Muslim women are not being paid reasonably for their efforts and work. I once met a female speaker who was running educational seminars in one of the Ottawa-based mosques. When I asked her how much she was earning, she said that she is not making anything at all. For some unknown reason, I felt that she was being brainwashed. I stared at her and wondered why she isn’t even given the minimum stipend for running such heavy classes every now and then. So I met another Muslim woman who was visiting the same mosque and felt scared when she said to me, “We Muslim women do not work for money, and we work for God. What I do for others is for God.” My jaw dropped open when I heard this from her─I mean, how are such women going to make any difference in this society where change means offering donations or exhibiting control. I feel that such women are participating in something very dangerous because they are busy removing the idea of “working in a paid capacity”, which is allowed in Islam, from the minds of younger women and girls, converts, and stressed women. Sure! it is a good idea to help out charities and masjids, but know that the administration of some of the masjids might be busy looting the offered resources one way or another. Should the Muslim women trust this conditioning and treatment any further?
  6. Some Muslim women who are married to filthy rich, educated, and vocal Canadian Muslim men are actually locked inside houses as their husbands neglect them and their children. While acting as a buddy, I have seen two such cases. I can’t reveal any of their personal information because of fear of victim blaming and because they are actually using social case workers and lawyers to get through.
  7. Canada’s legal system and perhaps the Canadian society as a whole expect “Hyper-Responsibility” from women, which is how they can forcibly criminalize some of the victims of abuse.
  8. Muslim women suffer from neglect and abuse when they come home after being rejected from job interviews. This is very common in Canada. We all know that jobs are necessary for adults to grow and present themselves as responsible members of the community and the household.  Canada is very racist, and thus Canada’s Muslim women are underrepresented in many fields and platforms.

Therefore, I have sufficient reason to state that some Muslim men and women have been strategically brainwashing the Muslim women to ask for less, work for free, and complain less when they are in pain. I am sure some of these women are being gravely misused because their abusive partners or guardians (men and sometimes women) are busy running almost everything on their own. These guardians have heavy insurances, stable jobs, and investments; however, the female victims know only the most basic things like how to deposit money in the bank or how to deliver a rehearsed speech.

These abusive Muslim men and women are part of the double glass ceiling that Canada is offering to the Muslim women regardless of the level of authority the abusers are exercising in their community. I know so many women who do not visit the masajids (mosques) or stick around other Muslims because they do not wish to be involved in framing or be abused in any way. In some cases, this behavior is actually preventing the women from being caught inside a psychotic gang.

IF YOU FIND ANY MUSLIM WOMEN WHO ARE VICTIMS OF ABUSE, DO NOT DISCUSS ANYTHING THEY TELL YOU WITHOUT GETTING WRITTEN PERMISSION WITH THE HELP OF A LAWYER BECAUSE SOMETIMES THE VICTIMS CAN GET FURTHER ABUSED OR EVEN KILLED THIS WAY. MAKE SURE TO REPORT TO THE CORRECT AUTHORITIES LIKE SOCIAL CASE WORKERS OR LAWYERS. YOU CAN ALSO TALK THE VICTIM INTO FILING A REPORT IF YOU KNOW HOW TO HANDLE HER CASE WITHOUT CAUSING FURTHER HARM. AND, KNOW THAT THERE ARE BOTH GOOD AND BAD PEOPLE AMONG “THOSE WHO HAVE AUTHORITY” AND “THOSE WHO DO NOT”. YOU HAVE TO KNOW HOW TO IDENTIFY, REPORT, AND STOP FRAMERS IF YOU NEED TO DO THIS PROPERLY. STOP SCAPEGOATING OR VICTIM BLAMING THE WOMEN, WHICH IS VERY COMMON IN CANADA, IF YOU REALLY WANT THEM TO BE FUNCTIONAL MEMBERS OF THIS SOCIETY.

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Demonizing Islam through Lame Lies

Originally Published On: Dec 18, 2016

Note: This commentary is a response to the YouTube video “Muslim rape slavery comes to Canada“. Please click through all the links and review all the associated articles. Otherwise, don’t read any of this because its not going to make any sense. Also note that the Western media mostly hires White people because this way coloured individuals cannot pinpoint to an issue, and only the White community members appear as saviors─just like Hollywood, this is an example of the White Saviour Complex.

I just watched horrible commentary by Ezra Levant that linked a despicable crime like rape to Islam. This video fails to mention four very critical aspects of Islam:

  1. Islam utilizes the testimony of women to punish rapists but some current so-called Islamic governments fail to implement this ruling.
  2. Rape is not acceptable even if you are looking at slaves. I am under the impression that the earliest Muslims were allowed to marry slaves but only after receiving consent and offering mahr (money offered by the groom to the bride). These marriages were offered as deception to the society so that eventually the slaves can be freed and empowered─remember that this society required slavery and its members would have gladly killed those who tried to openly abolish it. Hence, a deception was offered; and slowly the idea was implemented so that slave masters started freeing slaves in very large numbers.
  3. Slavery was slowly abolished by Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) as he offered a great example to the rest by granting the slave women he married freedom, status, and rights; and, as he employed freed slaves as independent leaders of his society. Do you think that Prophet Mohammad (we are now told this man is a captor) would have been able to stand up against those slaves whom he himself freed after granting them freedom, respect, and independence? One such very popular example is the leader Bilal. If there is one such man, then there were more and more such women and men.
  4. Islam encourages Muslims to seek assistance from investigators and lawyers by using any governing law (such as Christianity, Judaism, and Hinduism) given that those are their authorities. (What if this ruling is useless now because Muslims are being heavily profiled not only in North America but also in other parts of the world?)

You can verify my comments by talking to exceptionally educated Imams or Muslim or by thoroughly reviewing the original Islamic literature.

The speaker cries “Islamic rape slavery” has come to Canada now. But, rape slavery was already in Canada and the rest of the West; and, rape or slavery have nothing to do with Islam─Islam makes the women free in so many ways; e.g., I broke my first and second engagements because I wasn’t interested in those candidates and because Islam grants me this right. Blackmailing commentary like the above is clearly an attempt to brainwash masses who don’t know much about Islam so that people may start believing that Islam is a cruel religion that seeks to oppress women and children. Showcasing Muslim men as violent and numb is the same as when Joseph Conrad shows Africans as having no ability to speak or worthy of only being chained. The phrase “Islamic rape slavery” is just like the statements that are issued by some journalists who substitute the word “rape” with “affair”.

Then, Ezra brings a second case where a gang of British-Pakistani Muslim men got away with raping 1400 white girls for a period of 16 years. He further comments that they got away because they were Muslims. Honestly! There is no point in deluding the audience like this. Perhaps, you don’t want them to know that British, America, United Kingdom, and Canada all have their own versions of child abuse and sex slavery. Here are some interesting articles that should clarify how the elite including politicians and military personnel are participating in such abuse. But, this usually does not get caught or gets caught with lots of difficulties because the abusers are rich, famous, and “the best”.

Behind Anonymous’s Operation to Reveal Britain’s Elite Child-Rape Syndicate

This article shows how Scotland Yard found out that the British VIPs were involved in the rape and murder of young boys.

Child sexual abuse in the United Kingdom

According to this article, child sex abuse in the United Kingdom involves popular entertainers, politicians, military personnel, and other officials.

Power, Pedophilia, and the US Government

This article shares the fact that pedophilia sex scandals involve the highest levels of elite including US presidents and the British royal family.

‘Sex slaves are on every street in Britain’

In Britain, young girls who don’t know anything about concepts like “PTSD” or “Stockholm Syndrome” are thrown in the world of sex trafficking by boys and men who know grooming and abuse. The gifting and incidence parts of the abuse cycle keep the victims quiet for very long periods like several years.

Human Trafficking & Modern-day Slavery in Canada

Sex trafficking is a hidden crime in Canada. Only recently, the Toronto police has started a serious campaign to handle this issue. The Mantle Thought has also brought this issue up.

‘Invisible War’ Shines Light on Rape in the Military

You can find tons and tons of articles and documentaries about how the Canadian and American militaries are sometimes hiding stories of rape.

What Lies Beneath the Robes: Are Buddhist Monasteries Suitable Places for Children?

Rape of children takes place at some Buddhist monasteries; and, thus it is safe to conclude that Buddhist men and women are also at risk of being raped given that they are visiting a monastery of concern. There are times when raped children grow up to become rapists too. Is this Buddhist monk rapist a rape victim too or is he a full-fledged psychopath or sociopath?

The evidence for such cases are hard to find because really less number of individuals end up reporting this kind of crime; there is a stronger hush code; or people don’t know about signs of rape and abuse. One only needs to watch cases of Linda Lovelace and Samantha Geimer to see how easy it is to hide evidence as well as confuse victims to cooperate. In both cases, the attackers were White men namely Chuck Traynor and Roman Polanski respectively. They were both very difficult to catch: Traynor was receiving support from a lawyer who hid details of the abuse and Polanski was arrested after 31 years.

I believe sex slavery and rape are linked to domestic abuse, societal abuse, and neglect as well as other ignored issues like prostitution and pornographyquite frankly, most of the humans who are currently living on Planet Earth may not possess sufficient knowledge of the real psychology of men and women simply because their mental schemas are being gravely altered with the help of the movies and porn. The issue of sexual abuse must be addressed as something that is ailing any given society and not just an Islamic society.

Saying all this, I must comment that everyone must stop attacking Islam. These attackers and abusers are wasting my time and life. I don’t want to be sitting on the computer 24/7 and handling issues like these when I can go out and party with my friends. People who are lying about Islam should be sued for defaming Islam, creating hate crimes, and wasting the money of their governments that’s used to stop hate crimes─QUIT RUNNING IN CIRCLES.

Muslim Marriage Crisis

Originally Published On: Mar 18, 2017

Note: Some or most Muslim men have double standards that are deeply rooted inside their minds. They twist the issues their coloured sisters are having to make them seem demonic and unacceptable while creating excuses to help White women who have similar issues. They ignore vital things like the impact of domestic abuse; things that happen to young minds as they grow in isolation and while being misunderstood; and the need for privacy or acceptance of free choices. The Muslim Marriage crisis is just a reflection of these realities. Muslim men who just want to marry only White women while making fun of the headscarves and clothings of their Muslim female relatives or other sisters are an excellent exampleI have definitely seen and heard of some of these men.

There is a marriage crisis enfolding in the North America’s among the Muslims. The Muslim youth and adults lack ideal role models, which have been fed to them by their family members. Just like the rest of the humans, they also turn to TV and movies for comfort since these are globalized cheap products. Not all the Muslim parents understand their children’s needs and a lot of them are closed towards family counseling. This is how the Muslim youth and adults, especially girls and women are challenged.

I know that lots of superb Muslim women and girls are left struggling against their own family members and their double standards. They want to run away from their houses and be at a safe place where they may educate themselves and stand on their own. Despite all the religious rulings and help that are issued by some really good masjids (place of worship), the Muslims are still left struggling on their own. For some reason, the strong structure that the masjids offer ends up breaking outside─sure, there are rare cases where this beautiful supportive mentality still exists. The masjids teach you to be patient and not to judge. But outside, some Muslims judge each other, backbite each other, and leave their friends bare. That’s how they are blending into existing trends.

Perhaps, one of the most disturbing trend that I have found inside the Canadian Muslim community is misuse and wrongful application of the Islamic laws and rulings. For instance, blame can be easily shifted to the rape victims by failing to analyze psychology and circumstances of the victims as well as the abnormal psychology of the abusers. In another example, some Canadian Muslim men and their families walk away from eligible women and girls because of the fact that they are wearing pant and shirt outside. What do they want these women or girls to do? These women and girls are living and growing in Canada. You don’t expect them to be dressed in traditional clothing 24/7, do you? They will have to go outside and work and wear pant and shirt. What is wrong with that? I have even met women who are in their early forties, have Canadian PhDs or Medical Degrees, and are still desperately searching for a good match. I spoke with some other Muslim women and also looked at my personal experiences only to realize that a lot of us aren’t getting married because some Muslim men are looking for women who are less educated.

Why is this happening? That’s because there are some men who want to be always in control. They think that women aren’t smart enough and shouldn’t be allowed to override the judgments and thinking of the men. These men place Islamic scriptures in front of you and then say that that’s what it says. At the same time, they are ripping off the rest of the context and concepts; such as Muslim women may own processions and be very wealthy traders. What type of very intelligent beings are allowed to have trade and processions? They are the ones hiring men and telling them what to do and not the other way. Wow! After reviewing the whole set of scriptures, it becomes very easy to conclude that the men who keep asking women to be very obedient to them have very strong control issues. No wonder the women and girls feel so suffocated around them. Admit it! They are saying these things to them because they want the women and girls to be their puppets and just lay eggs. Don’t Be A Psychotic Weirdo!

Just remember, the above is true for ONLY SOME MUSLIM MEN AND FAMILIES. 

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Cyber Attack: Halal Dating Site

Originally Published On: Aug 15, 2017

Note: This post is based on credible evidence of misuse of women by some Muslim men through online chat. The idea of somehow lowering women stems from misinterpretation of some of the rulings of a Islam. As we read through existing translations of Islamic scriptures, we must keep in mind that the existing scholars are in fact struggling to learn the original Arabic, which is very much different than the modern or other recent versions of Arabic. This is how mistakes are made in translations or difference in opinions arises. There are some Muslim leaders and Imams who tend to believe the shortened versions of some Islamic scriptures and then devise rulings based on these. For instance, look how twisted the statements by the Toronto Police Services Muslim Chaplain Musleh Khan are sounding. Such men ignore a whole lots of things such as credible evidence and female psychology. Think of it this way: If Khadija, the first wife of Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) was not an independent and fierce thinker, then she would had been unable to lead all those mighty trade processions or hire Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) to do the tasks for her. 

She was new to this halal dating site, and it was her very first chat with some Muslim man who appeared to be very polite.

Muslim Man: Assalam-u-alaikum, how are you doing?
Muslim Girl: Wa-alaikum-assalam, I am well. How are you?
Muslim Man: I am well, alhamdulillah. So, what do you like to do in your spare time?
Muslim Girl: (provides minimum information) I like to play board games. What about you?
Muslim Man: (rhymes in sync like a puppet) I like them too. What else do you like?
Muslim Girl: (decides to investigate further) Please give me some time to review your profile.
Muslim Man: (tries sounding persuasive) I like your profile. Do you want to meet up?
Muslim Girl: (stays quiet and finishes reviewing his profile) I just found out that you are from Middle East. I don’t wish to move to Middle East. I wish you luck in finding a suitable spouse, inshaAllah.
Muslim Man: What do you mean? You cannot leave now.
Muslim Girl: (feels shocked) What do you mean I cannot leave now?
Muslim Man: I like your profile. You are a devil if you left. How dare you, you bitch?
Muslim Girl: (starts shaking) I think I have just connected with a whacko. (copies the entire conversation, emails it to the administration, blocks the guy, and then removes her profile from the website) I swear that I will not marry a born Muslim. They are doing a lot of things wrong. Maybe, a convert Muslim man will do things right. Today was the last straw because now I am hardwired into believing this.

It is the traumatic nature of memories that creates a general impression of anything including race and websites. She decided to stay single for a bit because she lost trust in online dating and men and her community was far too segregated for her to reach out given her minimum pay and small network.

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Should She Be Placed in Prison for Urinating on Quran?

I am reading the story of Sheila Szmerekova, the woman who tore the pages of the Quran and urinated on them. Her mother commented that her behaviour is erratic because several Romani gypsies raped her when she was really young. I believe her mom simply because mothers don’t usually throw lies that can hurt their daughters’ dignity. I also believe her because I have read about some rape victims and their behaviour seems very chilling to me.

I feel that certain governments including America, Saudi Arabia, and Britain are waging a war on the women. It’s mentioned in several YouTube videos and online articles. Google phrases like “drug abuse+women+jail+America” and “abuse cycle+jail+women+UK”. Across the globe, women are being treated in a very hypocritical manner. People are harsher on women, and they expect too many things from them. For example, 80% of the British female inmates are imprisoned due to non-violent crimes. Once the women have been imprisoned, other forms of abuse may occur including severe sex abuse, gang rapes, drug abuse, physical abuse, or emotional abuse. After reviewing credible resources, I have come to believe that the White women also suffer from inconsistent behaviour just like the Coloured women do.

I believe that the sentence that was imparted on this young lady is a hoax. It was given just to put her through harsher circumstances. Sure! It was issued to protect the Muslims, but it has nothing to do with the Muslims─I mean, it has nothing to do with the manner of conduct that was gradually taught around 1400 years ago. Muslims follow Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) who used to forgive those wicked pagans who routinely harassed the Muslims and peed inside the prayer area of the (masjids) mosques. You can’t find this version of the Islam unless you have figured how many hate campaigns have been launched to slowly distort the true face and context of Islamic rulings and unless you have realized that some translations of the Quran are actually incorrect; just like me, you won’t be able to figure out the complete version of early Islam due to lack of reliable teachers, inconsistencies caused by wrong translations, lack of group learning, and peer pressure. Sheila Szmerekova isn’t doing anything different than what those pagans were doing; yet, some Muslims on Facebook groups are cheering about her arrest. Despicable!

Six years of imprisonment for sounding insane doesn’t sound right to me simply because the current justice system is more lenient towards rapists. Jailing someone can easily initiate a much harsher drug abuse cycle, which is harder to beat than receiving rehabilitation for vile behaviour and commentary.

Why was Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) so loving and forgiving even towards the worst criminals? Is it because he knew and understood that strict judgements may eventually lead to psychopathic behaviour that would start plaguing the entire globe? Islam spread across the globe not due to cruel punishments but owing to the gentle demeanor of the leaders. I feel that the modern Muslims need to study their earliest leaders in detail so that they may learn and apply their actions, actual intentions, and methods of deriving logic.

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Inconsistencies that Target Coloured Women

Note: Read “Becoming Ms. Burton: From Prison to Recovery to Leading the Fight for Incarcerated Women ” to learn about another Black Champion! Shh! Don’t tell a narcissist because if you do they will downplay you by saying something mean like “We are all awarded champions here. You know what I mean.” [Quote] As a resident of South Los Angeles, a black community under siege in the War on Drugs, it was but a matter of time before Susan was arrested. She cycled in and out of prison for over 15 years; never was she offered therapy or treatment for addiction. On her own, she eventually found a private drug rehabilitation facility. [End Quote] I am placing this in the note simply because this book talks about the drug cycle and how inmates are abused by it.

North America as a whole has criminal attitude towards the women regardless of their colour, ethnicity, and all the other etceteras. What kind of women can endure so much abuse and then be shown as champions or be willing to share personal details on the TV? I hate it when they underestimate women. I once saved three women from severe abuse while I was studying and struggling for a stable career. Was that easy? 

I am finding this very troubling.

1) U.S. allows girls as young as 12 to get married. 
2) U.S. mostly picks up African-American women to be imprisoned if they are using drugs.
3) We all know that imprisonment can easily lead to more drug abuse since the prisoners are forced to purchase drugs to substitute for prescription drugs that were given to them while they were jailed. This is because they usually aren’t given sufficient money after release.

What is the message here? Do you think that women who are trying sex for the first time or girls who are only 12 years old at the time of marriage would know how to handle their first pregnancy?

What exactly is the message here?

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Praise and Stockholm Syndrome

I was listening to Tina Turner’s song “Simply the Best” when I realized that it includes excessive praise of the subject. My mind felt pain while listening to this song so I started reviewing Tina’s history on Wikipedia. Apparently, she married Ike Turner despite having doubts about all of this and ended up getting abused (see subsection “Ike Turner” under section “Personal Life”). Victims of such cases of domestic abuse usually develop Stockholm Syndrome where the victim praises the captors. This kind of abuse has nothing to do with the victim although the victim might start feeling responsible for her actions if she isn’t implementing Self-Care Plans properly. Nowadays, this kind of abuse is prevalent on all platforms of any given society. More privileged people, especially White men, have better chances of escaping justice because their deeper and more sickening mind game of “Grooming and Abusing” can cause stronger Stockholm Syndrome. Think of all this this way: the shackled victim is loved and abused by the same male who keeps telling her awful lies like “You were okay with this”; “You dig me, don’t you?”; and “You still dig me”—sex traffickers work like this as well. Lyrics of “Simply the Best” reminds me of all this because I sensed something other than what’s intended by this song and because other victims of abuse have told me something very similar.

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Learning Self Defense

I am watching a really lousy video of Muslim women learning self defence in a defence class. Either this footage was taken in a lousy manner or the dojo is a bad one.

I have one year of martial arts experience from both Taekwando and Karate dojos, which I acquired through Canadian instructors. I have sparred with men, women, and children. I have also taught other students martial arts under the guidance of my instructors. Here is some advice to Muslim American women as they attempt to learn martial arts.

  1. Do not enroll for bullshit type of training. Choose a better dojo and better team members. For instance, a typical Taekwando dojo requires 50-100 kicks per type of kick. I can tell this dojo is pretty bad because the instructors aren’t really watching their stances. Whether you will free yourself or get killed really depends on your stances.
  2. Realize that some Muslim male instructors won’t be interested in teaching you while others will. Do not feel depressed because of that. Walk away and find someone else.
  3. Spar with men because you must learn how to use their body type against them. Men have a different body type and thus different methods of tackling their opponents. This is why you will never find me in a women-only class.
  4. Stick with aggressive teachers and team mates. They can show you better and faster tricks.
  5. Study everyone in the dojo. Assess their body strength, swiftness, dodges, and attacks. Remember those moves as you spar against them.
  6. Remember that you are under strict discipline as you spar. This belt and uniform isn’t for fooling around. One move can prove more disastrous than you can imagine. For instance, a specific move that one of my teachers taught me can easily remove Adam’s Apple if performed with too much strength. So be careful of how you use your abilities.
  7. Do not feel frightened to assess your strength against men or larger women. There is a way of shifting the body weight to nullify their attacks. For instance, when I was sparring against a very muscled guy, I could sense that his physical energy would shift with each of my attacks and that he felt compelled to tackle me professionally.
  8. Do not let your opponent get to you even if you are fooling around. Stay at a safe distance and make sure to dodge and block properly. That’s the first rule of sparring in a Taekwando dojo.
  9. During a real fight, know when to run away by freeing yourself. If you can do so at the very first move, then know that that’s exactly what’s required by your instructors and team members. Key is to stay out of trouble.
  10. Practice martial arts in your spare time. Push yourself till you sweat and fall to pieces.
  11. Combine it with other exercises to create peace within yourself because that’s required to launch self defense. For instance, I combined Yoga and Tai Chi with Taekwando and Karate.
  12. Add to your knowledge base. For instance, I have been slowly reading a book on “Dim Mak” on my own. Never learn this art completely on your own unless you already have some sort of martial arts training. Dim Mak is one of the deadliest martial arts; and if you have learned it properly, you should able to do KOs really quickly given that doing a KO is the only escape out of trouble.
  13. Scream to challenge and frighten your opponent. One of the Kung Fu Black Belts once told me a real story of sparring where the opponent fell off the stage due to the intensity of the scream of the other guy.
  14. Hit the parts of the body that aren’t covered by muscles; for example, lower parts of the legs, feet, face, and neck are easiest to attack.
  15. Dance often to increase flexibility and relax yourself. I dance whenever I feel like it.
  16. Learn martial arts weapons. If someone attacks you, then you should be able to use a stick or pencil to defend yourself.
  17. Learn how to use your environment as a weapon. In the movie, Hush (2016), actress Kate Siegel uses a corkscrew to kill the villain who has managed to dodge and survive all of her attacks, get on top of her, and attempt to strangle her. In real life, hiding behind a van to confuse an attacker is just as good as what is happening in this movie.
  18. Have fun at the dojo. If you aren’t having fun, then you are more likely to lose.
  19. Remember that there are no real belts. I borrowed this philosophy from a Kung Fu Black Belt. I believe he taught me this because he noticed that sometimes White Belts can possess and demonstrate stronger knowledge of the principles of martial arts than the more experienced martial artists. For instance, my entire mind transforms as I wear the Gi (uniform). It’s like I become a different person altogether. Something alive found inside the Gi (uniform) literally enters my body, and I experience changes in my thoughts and actions.

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Demonizing Ancient Civilizations Does Not Work

One argument that critics of Islam use against the current Muslims who are very different than the earliest set of Muslims is that Muslims are allowed to marry children. I did some online research and found out that this statement is based on some narrations about Prophet Mohammad’s wife, Aisha. Research actually shows that many modern scholars and Muslims differ in opinion here because of the confusion created by unreliable narrators. After sorting through so many confusing documents, I eventually found one article that shares a whole lot of verses and ahadith to reveal that Aisha was 18 or 20 at the time of marriage.

In addition, I recalled that Quran allows and encourages Muslims to seek current experts to verify verses; and follow the laws and rulings provided by one’s country and age. In essence, it actually presents a challenge to the Muslims while allowing for Apostasy.  As I sorted through some very ancient text today, I realized that perhaps Polygamy was the only way of surviving at the time of Prophet Mohammad. Another similar example is that of the Hunter-Gatherer population, which is a type of society we cannot fully relate to even if we were exceptionally creative.

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