I Have Learned How To Make A Narcissist Feel Sorry

There are some pretty cruel narcissists in my family—you know the type that make you think only in the washroom. The challenge at my end was that I did not access to Internet when I was younger because I was living in Pakistan back then. The next complication was that I was too young to read into what was going on inside my family. So when I grew older and I learned how to use the internet, I ended up reading some articles about narcissism. This is when it occurred to me that I was dealing with some very experienced narcissists.

When a narcissist relative of mine moved out of dad’s place, he pointed to me and said that he is moving away due to me. I used to stand up for myself and for those whom he used to injure; obviously, he hated me a lot. I still laugh at this lie because I know that he left because he got a job somewhere. I realized that day that narcissists are very insensitive and they point fingers at the victims till the very end.

I am managing another narcissist relative by using some of these techniques. One thing I like doing is telling him that he is wrong in front of someone else who is more likely to take my side. For me, an Empath, some of these methods are actually too painful to utilize; but, I am very glad that I can use the rest of these. Read “How do you make a narcissist feel sorry?

Narcissism is actually on the rise in Pakistan and Canada; but, a lot of Pakistanis and Canadians are “unaware” of this due to the effects on the mind that are caused by “Gaslighting“. I slowly became aware of all this because I used to pray to God, which healed some of my trauma.

I like the fact that as an educated Empath, I am the worst weapon against Narcissists. I can clearly see how they go “flat out blank” after my ongoing efforts. Read “An Educated Empath Is A Narcissist’s Worst Nightmare: Why A Narcissist Can Never Get Away?” Narcissists attempt to subdue Empaths like me because an Empath’s superb character and personality are needed to make amazing Social heroes/heroines. Reading emotions and thoughts is one of the most basic things that an Empath can do, which is what’s missing in today’s environment. The best part of possessing this kind of mind is that I don’t fully realize my control over the minds of narcissists because control is not intended in any of my moves, which are somehow designed to add “some sort of control”. No wonder those who know me call me “grander than the rest” and even bullies revert to their normal self after my touch.

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I Can Brainwash Myself!

I discovered something new about myself yesterday. I was very sick yesterday; and, I had to sleep a lot to recover. I got bored of lying in my bed, so I started recording things in my recorder. My head clicked in the right direction because before I recorded something that felt graphic to me, I imagined a fantasy story about a King who falls in love with a rather ordinary woman. These interesting fantasy stories are the reason why my head did not hit in the wrong direction. Because I have high levels of Stereodepth Vision—this was tested in a lab at University of Toronto—I see actual images inside my mind while I imagine a story, a possible scenario, or reality. I believe that the fact that I am a lucid dreamer also plays a critical role in helping me achieve this. Cool thing is that I can do this while I am awake or asleep. When I imagine fantasy stories, my mind releases some chemicals that have a strong and immediate influence on my mood. This is how I recorded the second, more painful recording, which is about discrimination.

I once saved a woman from stalkers; I am sure other women would have puked before entertaining this idea. I have saved 5 women this way; sometimes, I am using telepathy to do this. The fact that I can brainwash myself helps me move forward so that I may be able to help others. This is why its easy for me to run “Forgotten Femmes” for abused women.

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Why I Like Sewing?

My mom used to sew with the help of a sewing machine. Unfortunately, I was never introduced to itI did learn Chinese cooking when I was a teenager because mom found me a good teacher. I started learning sewing on my own because after my first couple of tries with using the needle and the thread, I started feeling very drawn towards it. My mom quickly showed me how to thread a needle and how to sew ripped clothes. Of course! over time, I also learned how to make patterned boxes by sewing wool inside some kind of plastic material; and, how to make a doll by stitching a material that felt like a mix of hay and fabric. I forgot about these more complicated tasks—except for Chinese cooking—because despite being riveting in nature, they served no practical use whatsoever in real life. Thus, I stuck to just stitching my clothes with a needle and a thread.

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I made this while I was studying a Canadian High School. I managed to save these in my small “memory box”. The rest of the stuff I made had to be thrown away while I moved.

I know that the fact that Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him) used to stitch his own clothes contributed a lot to how I maintained my habit of managing my garments.

When we moved to Canada, I got access to the Internet. This is when I researched things online and found out that the there are many benefits of sewing including improvement of social life, emotional health, environment, creativity, and self-esteem. Read Eve Token’s article, “The Benefits of Sewing: 9 Reasons Why Sewing Is Good For You!

So can you see now how the Muslims are a very blessed race even if they may not have access to technology or riches?

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Today, I am stitching my clothing before I bathe and wear these.

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Rahim Pardesi’s “Nasreen” Comedy Show Is Misogynist In Nature

Some Pakistani shows even comedy shows are very misogynist in nature. I was raised on some of these shows; but, I learned how to walk away on my own. While living in Canada, I learned about Rahim Pardesi’s YouTube videos. I watched some of them and found some of them interesting. However, the rest of these videos were very frustrating in nature. It is easy for me to notice that he displays main character “Nasreen” as a very odd woman who is a total misfit and an outcast. I find it very cruel to see that he expects people to laugh at this. I have laughed on some of these depictions as well because he is actually very funny—there are times he jokes about the male characters instead. Here are some videos that strike me as very very odd! What’s even more peculiar is that the young woman “Nasreen” is actually Rahim Pardesi himself.

The Gym Class: Nasreen goes to the gym and does absolutely nothing except to flirt with a well-built guy.

Iftar Time: Nasreen’s husband tells her that she should wait a bit more and she is not going to die doing so. This is how he is talking to her during the sacred month of Ramadan.

Natural Beauty: Nasreen’s husband complains that she has wasted her money on getting her eyebrows shaped because she got this done last week. So apparently, he is not reading into the fact that she is bored or that her eyebrows grew out of shape because hair grows faster for some brown women.

Shop Snatch: Nasreen is busy running in slow motion or playing video games while her husband’s shop is being looted. This shows how well they connect with each other and read each other’s needs. This also shows that Nasreen is just responding to ongoing neglect.

Desi Hunger Games: Nasreen eventually yells at her husband after he misses her anniversary. He then throws chocolates at her like he is feeding an animal. Then, he starts daydreaming about a pretty Indian actress, Katrina Kaif.

Desi Holiday: This video clips starts when Nasreen’s best friend calls her and tells her that she is going to “Barcelona”. Nasreen learns that she is going to Dubai and gets all excited. Her husband says, “Shut up! You are barking”. Then, he tells her that he is going to take her to Pakistan instead; she gets very unhappy when she hears this.

Nasreen Kidnap: This clip shows how Nasreen is kidnapped and how her husband does not help her at all when the kidnappers call for ransom. She runs away on her own; and, when she gets home, she finds out that her husband is busy playing cards with his friends.

Nasreen After 40 Years: In this video, Nasreen ends up befriending a psycho killer due to fear. She feeds him and dances with him—they don’t tell viewers that she has “Stockholm Syndrome”. The psycho finally kills her because she runs out of the food that she was using to stop him from harming her. Her husband comes home; sees the dead body; and, thinks that she is pranking him. He checks out the dead body for 40 years; and, keeps thinking that she is pranking him. He says something along these lines, “Wake up! I am going to work. Stop overacting”. This shows you that for many days, he has not bothered to look for her outside of this kitchen and that her life does not exist outside of the kitchen.

“Nasreen” is clearly misogynist in nature because it depicts hatred towards women and shows this in various ways including neglect and verbally aggressive language. Obviously! the influence of such shows does not end at the screen.

My personal experiences have taught me that some Pakistani households are very toxic for women and children. In such abusive and dysfunctional households, Pakistanis are learning things mostly from TV; thus, they talk and behave a little bit or very much like Nasreen’s husband. This kind of mistreatment is designed to break women’s and children’s confidence and ruin their future. Some of my close male relatives used to sometimes talk like this. Three of them have changed a lot over years, which is a good indication. But, two of the guys who have reformed still tend to get very grumpy sometimes and then verbally assault me; then they apologize sooner or later. It’s scary because of the nature of comments. It used to be worse when they were younger; but, they have somehow changed into better people. They had some trauma in their lives so it was easier to change when stimuli was removed. We are learning how to move forward by talking to each other. I have noticed that we still work pretty well together, which is probably because our bond formation is still very strong.

Overall, it is very crippling living with them or being close to them, which is why our family members have grown apart. Domestic abuse is just one reason why I am not planning to marry within my culture. There is always this fear that something torturous is going to happen to me. I engage in Lucid Dreaming; and, even then I cannot remove this fear from my mind. Another reason is that I know things are like this for some other Pakistani-Canadian women as well; and, I know that some of  them are bent on identifying themselves as non-Pakistanis so that they may not get shot by their family members.

Saying all this, I must comment that all this is true for some Pakistani households only. And, the only way out of this is by using mainstream media to engage, which is obviously not going to be done for quite some while. Pakistani mainstream media is usually filled with dramas, comedy shows, music shows, and reality shows. There is really less footage on how to overcome domestic abuse; how to have a stable married life; or how to be good parents. You can tell which household is abusive if you are a keen observer or if you are sticking around for longer. In a typical abusive Pakistani household, children are usually very well-behaved in front of strangers; but, at the back they are very mean towards each other, parents, or employees. If you are a keen observer, you might end up noticing a bad joke such as, “Why won’t you try to sleep outside today?” This will very likely get camouflaged as the rest of the family members would attempt to shrug it off as something funny or childish someone is saying to distract the guests. If you live with them for a bit, you will definitely hear the children scream and also see them fighting a lot. And, if you are close to the abusive parents somehow, you will see that you cannot mention Psychologists or Family Councillors to them. They simply won’t listen because they have played a role in creating this dysfunction.

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My Disturbing Dream About Kidnapping of Children In The West

Some years ago, I had a very disturbing dream; and, I failed to discuss it online simply because I became too numb with fear—the fact that I was still in the learning phase contributed to this fear. There are scary dreams that do not scare me; and, there are scary dreams that hit on your deepest fears. Later form of dreams is rare simply because I am not aware of too many fears of mine. As you read this dream, know that some dreams are very focused on smaller things like one’s close friend and others zoom into broader truths like what is going on the West or East.

In this lucid dream, I saw several children whose hands were tied; they were kneeling while sitting in a queue; and, they were being fed something, perhaps a drug, with a spoon. I think a woman was feeding them. She seemed in control of the situation; perhaps, she was rich and too used to this routine. They were inside a very beautiful golden building, which was right next to a very large body of water. This building looked like an expensive one, the kind we see only in the West. These children were then loaded in a large electric boat, which left for an unknown destination. The only thing I remember about this building was that it had a large letter written on it; I think that letter was “G”.

I believe I will slowly learn how to conquer my deepest fears. All I have to do is expose myself more to these and then perform research to find out what actually is going on. Just a couple of days ago while revisiting my old dreams after gaining exposure to more dreams that actually came true and acquiring deeper insight into the world of luid dreams, I found an article that supported this particular vision. Read Action Against Abduction’s article “New Research Exposes Huge Increase In Child Abductions“;and, Judith Spitzer’s article “A hidden crime: Child sex trafficking is on the rise“. Apparently, child abductions are on the rise in the West.

Quite frankly, you should always document your dreams even if some of these seem like a rant. Creative minds need to rant and procastinate so that they may easily perform routine tasks and create results. This is why some dreams may seem like something you may ignore; but, these might still carry one or two critical pieces of information. Keep a diary where you document all of these mental events.

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Should Women Be Teaching The Bad Guys In The Light of #MeToo Campaign?

Note: Before you read this post, please note these thoughts do not apply to the good men who don’t like abusing and using women.

The correct answer to this question is NO. I say this because women have been harassed and abused for a very long while; and, most countries are so hyper-responsible that they are forcing women to create and lead the #MeToo campaign. I can see efforts like #MeToo campaigns as example of hyper-responsibility where women are expected to do more—I fail to see if they have failed at something already.

Before I tell you what men are learning from the women, I must share something that I have learned from experience and by having conversations with other women.

In Canada, some educated professional men are misusing women: they abuse them during interviews and at work; they spy on their campaigns by asking too many questions; they gang  up on them in an unfair and unprofessional manner; and, they do not answer their questions and keep secrets. By destabilizing the network and learning of the women, these men are creating gaps in their resumes and skills while increasing the wage gap.

According to What Men Can Learn From Women“, women teach men how to listen better; how to share empathy; how to communicate and collaborate effectively; how to think in a holistic manner; and, how to trust one’s guts. According to Gene Hammett’s article, “What Men Can Learn From Women Leaders“, men learn how to engage in new initiatives and how to multitask by using assistance and teaching offered by women.

If you have taught some men some stuff but they have not returned the favor, then please slowly demote them. Put a tag on them and remove them from all your personal activities like events, gatherings, or parties. I am also using this strategy to get rid of leeches!

I wonder if women need to demonstrate some tougher ways of disciplining men like a real or authentic slap on the face. I mean are you sure that the men (referring only to those who actually did something mean) who are now targets of the #MeToo campaigns had ZERO access to the women who could teach them something valuable? Truth is that a lot of women just like me don’t want to hit or even say something rude even to their aggressors. Therefore, their offenders must understand that campaigns like #MeToo and clever tactics like “slow demotion” are still considered a slap on the face or strict discipline.

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How Gotham’s Dr. Hugo Strange and Arkham Represent The Grating Realities of Canada

Dr. Hugo Strange manages Gotham‘s asylum for criminally insane, “Arkham“. First viewers may think that Dr. Strange is the good guy because he does all the normal things like smile, laugh, work, and read books. But, soon his speech becomes distorted enough to show his real side. I am making up the following dialogues after studying Dr. Strange; Dr. Strange actually says a little bit of these or indirectly implies the rest. My attempt is to show you the similarities between Arkham and Canada as well as Dr. Strange and some Canadians.

Scenario 1

Dr. Strange: We are all here to celebrate and experience the anguish of being wronged;  we are here to feel the fatality and reality of things. Why only feel these things! Why not some firecrackers for all of us! What do you think Ms. Peabody?

Ms. Peabody: You are right!

Dr. Strange: What a nice gal!

Scenario 2

Dr. Strange: These patients are very very happy here. Ms. Peabody is in charge of their rehabilitation; and, we have no complaints so far. I assure you that when all of this is over, they will be back to their “real self”.

Scenario 3

Dr. Strange: She is such a talented and beautiful woman. That one is peculiar! Shall we see how she is holding up in there? That brave rascal! (turns switch on and we see a 13 or 15 year old girl, Firefly, standing in a desolate and dark room holding a torch. She has been trained to light anyone who approaches her.). What do you think Ms. Peabody?

Ms. Peabody: Yes! You are right.

Scenario 4

Dr. Strange: What do you mean? I am not in need of you. It is you who need me. All you have to do is stick with your promise.

Scenario 5

Dr. Strange: We are all mad here; we are all bad here; we are all rad (radical hippie style) here. C’mon, that’s the plan. Ahh! What would I not do to ruin that smile?

Arkham is an asylum that was created to manage and assist criminally insane. In Canada, colored people are treated as criminally insane. In some workplaces, one is treated as a villain who is not allowed to move up and is constantly questioned about things that he/she have already overcome. Canada wrongly and openly boasts of being a leader in human rights; but, the reality is that this country runs sick experiments on colored people. Canada is one of the most racist countries in the world; its mostly White media does not properly reflect the needs of the colored people; police of certain cities are anti-Black ; phobia against certain groups is normalized by mainstream media; the income gap is very wide, especially for coloured people and most Canadians somehow end up justifying why they have multiple degrees and really insignificant savings; war refugees that are at risk of developing Stockholm Syndrome are brought into Canada and they are not warned that sex trafficking is a well-hidden crime in this country; sex is so much in everywhere that even fundraisers or annual dinners are being run with the help of performers who are dressed like strippers (I saw this with my own eyes); the fact that a lot of colored graduates from university campuses, which can be dubbed “Brown Campuses“, don’t want to work with these white-lead universities is hidden under arrogant claims like “these people are just visiting Canada” or “these people aren’t qualified enough”; and, living here and having a family is almost impossible for many colored individuals. Colored humans are forced to see the White Saviour Complex as something good just like the inmates of Arkham are forced to realize that there is nothing wrong with becoming more evil or going back to the same city that initially corrupted them.

In “Gotham”, Dr. Strange attempts to recreate what he considers is “normal”. Mind you, Dr. Strange is very selective just like some narcissists and criminals who work and live in Canada. He totally picks who is going to become the “real self” and who needs to be “freed” into the hell offered by Gotham. When I wrote some of the dialogues about Dr. Strange, I used the word “real self”, which is an idea I learned in Philosophy and English classes. You must have wondered what Dr. Strange means by “real self”? “Real self’ is the one that is created by Dr. Strange after harsh experimentation. This new person is actually very much brainwashed and is even more criminal than before. In Canada, “real self” is conceived after considerable brainwashing. They are using many ways to reprogram colored people. Not giving colored people suitable jobs that match their qualifications and skills; talking to them in a demeaning manner, such as expecting that that colored researcher the cops just happened to stop is working in India and not Canada; offering more barriers, such as the glass ceiling effect and the color coded labour market; unjustly detaining them with the help of the Security Certificate and not granting the lawyers any access to human evidence; and, assimilating them in a senseless way, such as expecting everyone to dance and discuss or engage in sex rather openly (discussed in schools and offices) regardless of their religious background. The last option in the aforementioned list might baffle some readers because predators like these are selective people who don’t attack everyone. Even when you feel nothing is happening, something is happening. For example, Dr. Strange speaks by using puzzling words like “real self”; even some Canadian employers use similar confounding terminology and methods, such as telling a job candidate that he/she is not maintaining sufficient eye contact while failing to recognize the fact that this is being done to manage eye contact with the rest during a panel interview.

Scenario 3 is about Firefly who was introduced to crime through ongoing neglect and mistreatment that was offered to her by her brother. This is similar to a typical domestic abuse situation where a young Canadian woman eventually snaps and tries to let’s say run away from her home; she finally finds a new place and is harassed there as well. The right kind of people never find out in due time because Canada is like a pitch black and deserted place where attempts to seek help are nullified by almost everyone including those who are jealous; those who are well-meaning; those who are educated; those who have no education; those who care; and, those who don’t care. As usual, there are always lots of Ms. Peabodys in such cases because every abuser needs someone who can validate that person. Now, just like Firefly, this young woman can be further torn and gradually changed into a hardcore and even more hideous monsterby “monster”, I mean an “outcast”. If you feel that I just told you a big fat lie, then know the following facts: 2 out of 3 Canadians are not aware about sexual consent; rape kits are failing the victims and rape crisis centres are being failed by the Canadian system;  not to forget that victims of domestic abuse are also being failed by the Canadian system. Justice is sometimes or perhaps most of the times really slow in Canada, which is what this particular story is telling us: According to CBC, in 1900s, the CIA conducted brainwashing experiments on Canadians at the McGill University; now, in 2018, the Fifth Estate is collecting stories of people who were affected by this experiment. Its really that late? Do you still think there are no Fireflies in Canada?

Scenario 4 is a common example of abuse and intimidation that takes place in Canada. Narcissists are running Canada; a lot of these narcissists are well suited for positions in lecturing, management, and medicine. Nobody goes near them because just like Dr. Strange, these people are control freaks; this is signified by phrase, “All you have to do is stick with your promise”. I have some experience with Canadians who are narcissists. I have learned that there are different kinds of narcissists; for example, there are those who like to devise errors and attempt to place those delusions in the brains of the victims and the rest of the audience; and, others who just use verbally loaded language to scare their victims. It is very easy to find male and female managers who are using pornographic terminology or the F word inside officesyou will see people talking about this in close circles but most people do not want to worry about reporting these atrocities to the media. It is a fact that Canada coddles criminals; you might be sitting right next to a real whacko while you are studying or working. It is a fact that in Canada racism is sometimes a very hidden thing; and, this is why it takes a lot of time and thoughts to just realize what has happened. This concept is represented by Arkham’s concealed basement where monsters are created through abusive research and experiments. I have experiences with such covert form of racism; there have been times when some people have made friends with me only to leave me after using my connections and resources; even some strangers have told me that something similar has happened to them as well. Furthermore, real and credible authorities are never made available on mainstream media; and, when they do arrive, they arrive in lesser number owing to Canada’s integration issues.  Additionally, reality is never represented properly through media simply because it is being run by domineering individuals who want us to be okay with being labelled inappropriately and misrepresentedthis is the promise they think we owe them. For example, Ezra who is telling a lot of lies about Islam is always summoned by Canadian mainstream media; but credible and globally known authorities like Imam Dr. Delic are not invited. Last but not least, the government authorities like RCMP are wasting a lot of effort in creating racist guides to target certain groups; for example, the RCMP interview guide unfairly targets Muslim migrants. Overall, colored people especially the ones who need to be targeted due to political reasons are expected to complete the promises they made to Canada because Canada is not in need of them but they need Canada. The fact that whistleblowers can get fired and abused in Canada sometimes shows at the lowest levels of authority like when students are warned unfairly if they decide to speak out against abusive teachers or professors. This reasoning is how Canada is getting away with using the resources of the colored people while making it look like that Canada does not owe them anything. The misuse of the Chinese employees is one example. Mistreatment of Muslims is another excellent examplenot many Canadians are aware of the fact that the Muslims have been living in Canada since 1800s.

In Scenario 1, I stated that Dr. Strange has a need to use “firecrackers”. Here, I am referring to hate crimes and racism as firecrackers that hit the victims on their already wounded heads every now and then. Lastly, Scenario 5 is everywhere. We are expected to mix, mingle, and laugh even after having our heads shaved owing to the frustration offered by the current state of Canada. Thus, Canada is as civil and productive as Arkham.

My Last Thought: Can you easily see now how groups like ISIS can attack lonely Canadiansthey are already doing this to lonely Americans. All they have to do is find some lonely and poor Canadians; tell them that they have a chance to get rid of the West and its methods by participating in a war; love them by sending them daily messages, showing affection, and providing a “supportive” online group; and, then wait for the “Stockholm Syndrome” to set in. That’s all! They can build an army like this; and, given the entire picture, it should be easy to do so. Lastly, after reading stories of how young Americans become willing to do what ISIS is asking them to do, I have started thinking that ISIS is very educated in psychological brainwashing torture; this is why I have started believing that ISIS is linked into powerful Western countries like America and not poor countries like Afghanistan. James L. Trainum’s book “How the Police Generate False Confessions: An Inside Look at the Interrogation Room” shares the techniques that are used to brainwash victims into believing that they are the “real hard-core criminals” or the “new, protected, and loved informants”. If you have any questions about ISIS, read this book. Maybe, it will help a lot!

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Why I Love Singing

I started singing at an early age; but, I received my only formal training when I was in a Pakistani high school. We had a small girls-only choir; and, we were required to sing for all the morning assemblies and school parties—I was also heavily involved in the school’s official girls-only dance team.

I have not been to Pakistan in 20 years now. Whenever I feel down, I sing along by using some of my favourite songs—I have lots and lots of lovely ones. Singing activates some sort of odd effect inside my brain. I stay focused on my singing like a drug addict; then I dance like a hasheesh infested woman—so you must have realized that poetry is doing something even stronger than that. After a day or two have passed, my mood stays very optimistic, hot, sexy, and sensational.

Listen to some of the songs that I have sung under the title “Songs Sung & Written By Someone Else“. I will slowly add more clippers of songs here.

Here are some benefits of singing.

  1. According to Kay Norton’s “Singing and Wellbeing: ancient Wisdom and Modern Proof“, Singing brings groups together by breaking down barriers. Even very religious people who are traditionally labelled as dull sing eloquently and just like macho drug addicts.
  2. According to the article, “Music and Drugs are the Same to your Brain’s Reward Centre“, Music is like drug to the brain, which is another way singers feel high enough to sing for their audience. 
  3. According to article, “11 Surprising Health Benefits of Singing“, singing improves the posture. I have to sit or stand a specific way in order to sing. Then I have to move my hands and arms in order to guide my singing. 
  4. According to the aforementioned article, singing also strengthen confidence and communication skills.
  5. The last article also indicate that singing lower stress levels, improve alertness, and create better sleep. My brain adapts so quickly to singing that nobody ever notices that I was down just a couple of moments ago. Singing and music is how I survived teenager trauma.

When I get a crush on some guy, I experience the most stunning effects inside my mind. One such really intoxicating feeling is the need to sing and dance—it pays to be aware of the 14 phases of love. 

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Why Some Abused Canadian Employees Do Not File A Report

There are plenty of reasons why someone who has been thoroughly abused does not file a report with the Ministry of Labour

  1. They do not know or trust the Minsitry because they have never worked there. They do not have any impressions of the people who work there. They keep thinking that their file might go in wrong hands again.
  2. There is no time. They might already be stuck in a bad situation like managing family and children or just getting the job after finishing studies.
  3. They belong to a minority culture and religion. There is lots of ways of misunderstanding what is going on. For example, Mulsim women do not make pushy or ongoing eye contact with men like some Canadian employers want them to make while talking. This can be used against them to abuse them further; but, nobody is able to make note of this mistreatment.
  4. Somebody could have already lied to them and done a fake and unreliable investigation. For example, some academic organizations including Nursing schools like Humber College are doing exactly this. Read Globe and Mail’s article “Justice on Campus“. This mistreatment is not necessarily rape; it can include emotional abuse offered by some teachers in a selective manner to only some students. Because the victims have been lied to, they might already been brainwashed not to act properly. Those who are left watching also go through effects of gaslighting.

This has happened to me as well. I did not file report of being harrassed by an employer because I was in a hurry to move forward. But, this did come back to haunt me later when I needed a reference for a position. Anyways, it’s a really long story! I cannot share it here. I am sure if you were to talk to a lawyer or journalist about this, they will tell you more reasons why people do not want to file a report even after being gravely misused and misunderstood. Canada is like that; and, I believe that it is going to stay like this for a long while. Very frankly, Canada offers a very unstable work environment for coloured people, especially coloured women. If you are colored and have a job, then save up and leave Canada whenever possible. I feel Muslims also need to listen to what I am saying here. Canada is actually a very racist country; people can be easily coerced to believe lies through mainstream media. For example, read article “How Canadian Media Normalizes Islamophobia” to see how Muslims are being targeted by the mainstream media. One key figure Canadian media uses repeatedly is Tarek Fateh who keeps lying about how Islam allows for rape and sex slavery by using scholars who are not well-recognized or by contorting or removing the real context behind a story. I have read some Islamic texts during my spare time. Slavery and rape are not allowed in Islam. PERIOD. It’s prohibited according to the Quran and the words of Prophet Mohammad (peace be upon him). I believe that it is due to weird people like Tarek Fateh that Canadian Muslims are facing Islamophobia and hate crimes.

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