Do Women Allow for Abuse?

Some people say a lot of things to women like they are willing to be abused or that they can handle mistreatment. Here is a brief comment from my end: Men do the same but nobody sits there and uses this ability against them. Scroll to 9:38 for “Journey to America” by Akbar Ahmed. Farhan, the former President of the Local MSA, states that when he was being beaten by some men, he was unable to respond because he knew them. Truth is that most of the abusers who like punishing women actually know them one way or another. So, some women are reacting just like some men when it comes to reactions like these. I wonder if this reaction is tying into “Empathy” and not just “Tend and Befriend” response!

Bollywood vs Hollywood

I just watched the video “Bollywood’s Problem with Women” on Twitter and YouTube. I agree with this video because I am from Pakistan and I have been forced to observe a lot—these memories of a specific city of Pakistan are around 18 years old because I have not visited that country for this long. For instance, as a Pakistani teenager, I used to get stalked daily by young men and teenagers. Cruel and confusing wild gestures like winking, blowing kisses, and physical advances (sexual harassment) were normal for them. Tons of boys used to cling to the Women’s-Only high school and stare at them. Thus, all the girls used to always form large gangs and move together. So all this caused some men to become very protective towards me and the other girls who were involved in all this. Another thing that was common in Pakistan was how adults and children in some households used to watch porn together simply because it was considered a group thing—most of this was Western porn. It felt very ridiculous and confusing because we were just teenagers and growing slowly—bond formation is a big deal for teenagers so it is very easy to learn about porn while visiting a close friend. Not only we were being offered mixed messages that affection and gender interaction allow only men to tease as many women as possible but we were also being peer pressured to watch porn. By the way, I survived all this abuse because I was lucid. Even when I was not engaging in vivid lucid dreams, my body would release healing energy and I used to heal quickly. 

In contrast, Hollywood paints a different picture altogether. We have Wonder Woman who is flying in her nickers and killing as many muscled, abusive, and murderous men as possible. And, she always wins! I have no idea how she always wins but the reality is that the people who are showing you this believe in HYPER-RESPONSIBILITY. For example, Canada’s legal system is hyper-responsible; and, they expect too many things from women but they don’t give them timely and sufficient support. This is why in North America, “men walking away from women after using their assistance” has become an established trend. In addition, some Canadians crave porn. Porn and sex is a common topic of discussion in many Canadian schools, colleges, and universities. I even heard a funny comment by a White girl that her boyfriend teaches her about sex and she don’t really know what he is doing. Just a thought: that’s not how it is done through marriage that is considered an actual contract according to Islam. Rape and abuse of the female gender is a type of thing that is underreported in North America. Watch this video where a newscaster talks about how live rape that was showcased on Facebook was not reported in a timely manner—this story reminds me of how I intervened and gave some information about Anonymous Hacktivist community, tips about detecting abusive people, and PREVNet to a woman who was being cyber bullied on Facebook. To learn more about exploitation of women as it takes place in Canada, read my blog post “Canada’s Need for Porn and Sex Trafficking“.

Seriously! Hollywood and Bollywood are creating more Dysfunctional families and societies. We are being raised in an era where money and happiness are being controlled by only few individuals. Thus, these channels are the cheapest to get when one is feeling emotionally neglected but they are only adding to the existing problems. Do you know that managing stress means having sex? Do you know that porn is related to emotional trauma? I think that a lot of younger people who are doing these things have previous history of harsh abuse.

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Silent Treatments

Some abusive households function in a covert manner. For example, they may choose to neglect only one person who chose to speak out. Usually, the victim is a female because they are easier to victimize due to their strong “tend and befriend” response. One way of neglecting her is to lock her in the house and do not invite her to shopping or take her out to family vacations. All this can be done under the guise of “she has to take care of the house”. These things could be done in a modern country like Canada and nobody will know about this because the victim could have become “verbally shunned” simply because she can see these negligent patterns.

This kind of thing happens to those who have been emotionally abused before; are economically less stable (like a blogger or an artist); or live in a house that’s lead by only men. You know, wherever the Abuse Cylce is somehow still intact!

If you come across such a woman/girl, please act responsibly and help her fit into this society because she might have been neglected for years and knows less about the outside world. You will notice that she won’t tell you anything about her condition while she is staying with her parents and she may not bring her parents up again once she has fled the situation.

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Dreams of My Uncle Have Brought Me Great Fortune

I once had an uncle who was a Medical genius but I lost him due to his life’s struggles and bad health—I still remember crying like a little broken-minded baby. I loved him a lot and I was always sitting in his arms or on his side and cleaning and massaging his scalp and feet. May God Bless His Soul! I still love and miss him. So whenever I attain my lucid state, I try to see him again.

I am a bit puzzled about his spirit form because I feel that he is still present around me just like the Dark Giant. Maybe, its because he was very smart and he loved me a lot. Once, uncle came in my dream and showed me a car and then he asked me to get near him so that he may show me how to clean the car. In another dream, a dark animal spirit of a tiger (my favourite animal) chased me while I was sitting in a car; and then it broke down and splashed into a form that was just made out of water. Some months later, I got my G license and even got my first car. Furthermore, some of my family members slowly taught me how to clean different parts of my car.

This was several years ago. I missed my uncle’s laughter and teasing; so after he died, I called him to come see me again. He came to see me in my dreams some years ago.But, he was invisible and instead there was this odd energy source. The energy source took me a room that was filled with professionals and it walked next to me as I navigated through areas where businessmen/women were networking. I think this dream was a signal from my dead uncle to work hard and keep moving forward.

I didn’t call for him to come for some years because I needed to forget things. But just yesterday, I met him again. This time he was wearing my favourite brown jacket and he was still fat (obese) and healthy. Then, I felt something different from him—it felt like a voice and presence. I believe he suggested that a good man will soon protect me. Or did I hear things this way because uncle used to watch over me? I don’t fully know what’s going on…

Uncle used to tell me that I was so little that I could have easily hidden in his jacket’s pocket. I think I got cued at that point to stick with him for protection. I think I am just going to sit here and wait for that man to appear.

Adieu!

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Some Canadian Workplaces Are Very Abusive Towards Women

I resigned 4 times from bad Canadian workplaces. I am an immigrant and I came to Canada from Pakistan thinking that I will have a life and some freedom here. But, I have gone through thorough abuse here and I am noticing that many people including some teachers, professors, and health care providers are trying to discourage women from speaking out for themselves. Their motto is, “her personal information is nobody’s business and its safer that way”. That’s a lie! It is not safer that way. Abusive men will have a stronger say that way because they will end up thinking that “she is easy to abuse”; “she is naive”; or “she is okay with all this”.  This is why I have been pushed to believe that living in Canada is just like living in a very abusive country like Ukraine where cops rape women and everyone stays quiet.

First, I used to think that maybe my attitude needed some change. Every now and then, I used to wonder as to why my own thoughts would get directed towards my attitude? I mean when I got to Canada, I was an extrovert. Maybe, some abusive Canadian people tried to change me into a quieter person but these kind of scare tactics don’t work for long. When I started investigating about what was going on, I found out that many White women and not just the colored women were complaining. A White woman once told me that she was being forced to volunteer. Another White woman frankly informed me that she did not get a job because of how young she looked. If White women are being put through this, then obviously the colored women are being abused in harsher ways. A lot of times, the abusive men are getting away with this because they are abusing younger women; immigrants who do not know the entire Canadian system fully; or those who are already stuck behind multiple barriers that are erected by this racist country that has a very well-defined gap between the rich and poor.  Read “Harassment and Violence in the Canadian Workplace; An Issue on the Rise” by The Canadian Resource Centre for Victims of Crime.

Seriously! I am getting abused despite being so well-connected, educated, and experienced. I still do not have sufficient time or money to get a lawyer and sue my offenders. That’s why there is no written record of this abuse except for what I have already documented or discussed with my friends and advisors. And, that’s why my heart is getting affected and I am running into breathing issues. I wonder what is being done to those women who aren’t as privileged as I am! I am always more than happy to resign because I bring down my abusers every time I do this. You know what I mean!

Here is my message to all the women of this world: If you want risky adventure in your life like entertain the possibility of having your character assassinated, being murdered or raped, or enduring the state of invisibility, then you may decide to work in some Canadian workplace—remember that only some Canadian workplaces keep the women physically, economically, and psychologically safe and the rest offer grave health risks to them and their loved ones. I am writing a book about this; please, make sure to get your own copy once its completed and published. I am even running a Writing group for women only due to all of this. This way, we won’t be granting any abusers any opportunity to “open and close” the victims.  I know that all these fails are actually dictating a win, which is why I do not feel lost about things.

Abusers make a big mistake when they misuse and mistreat people. They do not read them properly and they do not give them a chance to be read in a safe manner. They failed to read the following:

  1. I am a writer who stays quiet until she is done observing something.
  2. I am a great chess player and I slowly learn how to reverse all the moves.
  3. I am very stubborn, which is why I always follow up.
  4. I love using strategies to resolve conflicts; so if you are offering me even a tiny bit of doubt about something then I will definitely investigate it in detail.
  5. I am a genius but I haven’t fully discussed this in public yet. This is another reason why this fact is still undiscovered.
  6. I am a Rajput and thus I belong to one of the most brilliant races of this world. I once walked back home after a sparring match with a broken foot. Indian Rajputs have kind of that body type and endurance. I still have a mark on one of my foot. It’s my trophy!
  7. I heal faster simply because I am lucid.
  8. People and strangers love me.
  9. I don’t believe in the usual types of heroes that are shown by Hollywood, Bollywood, and Warner Bros although I give people the other impression when I am wasting my time. This is because I know that the real champions are made up of something different than what we all have come to believe.

By the way, classic mistakes like these can cause historical changes. But, in Canada these kind of mistakes are becoming the norm!

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Old is New! Part 2

I wrote the post “Old is New” to compare Pakistani singer “Mehdi Hassan” and British band “The Boyzone”. Because I am so attracted to music, I sometimes sit and compare songs from different countries.

Here are two songs that are somehow similarI say, “somehow similar” because these artists belong to different cultures and countries and I have no idea how they are sounding like each other. In both songs, the singer is asking the one who is addressed to read into their thoughts so that they may feel content. Both are somehow putting the one who is addressed lower: Indian singer Lata says, “you are already so scared and we haven’t even started anything yet”. British singer Gordon says, “the ending is too hard to take”. In both cases, the singer is trying to impress the other person by talking about things that only the singer knows. Both singers are trashing the other person but in a very beautiful way. Lata is trashing the other person by offering a higher mental space and Gordon is trashing the other person by lowering him/her. While doing so, they are both sounding very unsettled. Despite all these similarities Lata’s song is romantic and Gordon’s song is about a breakup. Moreover, the songwriters have written the songs in such a way that they end up appearing like ghosts to their beloveds. Lastly, there is some similarity in how the musical instruments are being played.

O Mere Dil Kay Chain by Lata Mangeshkar. English Lyrics.

If You Could Read My Mind by Gordon Lightfoot.

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Music of Lucid Dreamers

I can play music and musical instruments during sleep. In one dream, I saw my best friend and her husband sitting next to my bed and playing the piano. I felt so entranced with the sound of music that engulfed my entire dream. Mostly, music plays during all my lucid dates. This is why some lucid dreamers describe lucid dream sex as something very different and exceptional. And, the associated gesture, which might be just a Sender Signal, feels so touching. Richard D James/Aphex Twin, the electronic musician, used to recreate and sell the music that he felt during his lucid dreams. I don’t know how to write music yet because I never bothered to take classes in music. I just know how to sing and I do have some training in singing; but, I might learn how to play musical instruments in the future.

Another time, music rings through my ears is when I connect with people. It comes out of the human body like real music and I can hear it to some extent. As usual, the rest of the humans can hear this sort of music at different levels.

Due to my extraordinary experiences, I will offer the following conclusions that can be easily proved after investigation. There are four types of music that play through the humans. Type 1 and Type 2 are the music of breath and body that show during daily interactions; Type 3 is music of soul that shows during sleep; and, Type 4 is the music that sometimes plays when you think you are following your guts and it can be enhanced by deliberately playing Type 3 music.

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Canada’s Revolting Crime: Money-Laundering & Criminalization of Colored People

I have been thinking about presenting articles in a creative way to show people how Canada is looting assets of the colored population and then criminalizing them through very refined and pushy methods. These are some facts that I have collected so far and I am sure more and more ideas can be added here to reach the same conclusion. Here are some facts that I feel will help you understand how Canada is becoming rich but sad:

Fact 1: Canada is bringing more people here by marketing International programs. A lot of colored people are coming here with the hope of settling while not having any knowledge of what kind of system and “walls” they will be handling. Why is there such a strong effort to educate international students and immigrants when Canada has such a sketchy and old expectation gap where the workplaces are asking for something else and universities and even some colleges are teaching something else? The programs for which the Domestic students pay around $6000 require around $14,000 from the International Students. And, that is not it! Some college programs are designed and run in a haste and some courses inside those “fast” programs almost force students to “not use real Databases like Statistics Canada to extract relevant data” and “create imaginary content only”. Another example is when the post-graduate programs are marketed to attract graduates from any other Canadian university or college; for instance, Event Management program easily attracts students from Biological Sciences, English, and Communication. Then the students are given an assignment that should technically take some thinking from a research paper so as to create an imaginary report that seems to be at the graduate level. Let us assume that there is a question that involves finding out who will come to a specific kind of event that serves only certain foods and music. In reality, this kind of question can be answered by reviewing research articles that are found in databases like ScienceDirect, but students aren’t provided a list of relevant databases to explore at all. Why are they expecting that a Biological Sciences graduate or an International Student would know some of the databases required for Event Planning & Marketing? Another example is when Event Management students are asked by their Computer Application teacher to create only a Survey as part of Market Research. College teacher usually spends only around one hour explaining this kind of assignment. Excuse Me! High school students can do this. Why are they running this kind of assignment without giving them loads of information that’s at the graduate level? Why are they not running something more concrete and heavy like a “Focus Group” instead? You know that’s tougher than running a survey. Thus, some employers are just catching on the Expectation Gap and throwing away whoever they want to.  Here, read this article to see what I am trying to say.
Fact 2: Canada’s entire system is very color coded. This is true for the health care system and the labor market. For example, I know that the White graduates are asked less questions than the Colored graduates because I have seen this happen in real life. So its usual for some employers to say, “So you wrote a paper without using actual databases like Statistics Canada. What do you want me to do with it? What’s its point? A kid can generate this.” But he/she might not say this to a White graduate. Try Dodge Balling that!
Fact 3: Canada has a double glass ceiling almost everywhere. University campuses that produce colored graduates but hires and promotes mostly White people are just one example of the double glass ceiling. There are many more examples and you just need to learn where to find them. One great way of finding these examples is by talking to people, especially students. I say “talk to students” because most of the Canadian students are freakishly well-educated and knowledgeable.
Fact 4: Canada allows colored people including Brown, Black, and Aboriginals to be jailed even for very minor offenses. There are also queer cases like Toronto 18 where most of the colored men who were arrested were later released.
Fact 5: Canada has a Rich-Poor Gap and we all know that poverty is linked to crime. Poverty can also be created by isolating minorities from the majority, which is how you will still find that “Brown people like doing business with Black people”.
Fact 6: It is very easy to make innocent people say that they are guilty; believe they are guilty; and then tell everyone that they guilty. I think that most of the colored people who are being jailed in Canada were trapped through use of circumstances and lies. James L. Trainum’s book “How the Police Generate False Confessions: An Inside Look at the Interrogation Room” shares the techniques that are used to brainwash victims into believing that they are the “real hard-core criminals” or the “new, protected, and loved informants”. But know that these techniques do not work on everyone. What if the only free men from the Toronto 18 case were those on whom these techniques did not work? What if the rest are jailed because these techniques worked on them? Is this why we do not have much exposure to how these kind of cases are being run.

So, what really is going on here?

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Canada’s Undiscovered Geniuses

Canada has lots of undiscovered geniuses who aren’t participating on purpose because they feel that they are being abused. I will share one of my personal stories here. I have an Honours Bachelors of Sciences in Biological Sciences from University of Toronto. I chose to finish Double Minors in Philosophy and Mathematical Sciences because I found Biological Sciences to be too restrictive for my mind. I failed to pursue higher education in my favourite subject, Biological Sciences, because one of the female Research Scientists commented that she was having difficulty getting the money she needed for her projects. Scientific Research has always been very easy for me. It didn’t take me more than two week (excluding commute time an drew time to study for other courses)  to draft my entire Research Thesis; and, I didn’t choose an easy one to investigate. I chose to conduct research on Drosophila Melanogaster (fruit fly) and attempted to introduce a new segment in the fly’s body. This was tough because the body of the fly develops through a sequence of complicated biological processes that require only certain genes to be expressed in a specific sequence and quantity. On my first try, I nailed the genes and genetic markers that were needed to introduce the mutation, which will eventually play a very significant role in creating that additional body segment. Other scientists had issues creating this mutation because the flies usually end up dying due to it. But, I managed to keep them alive and also got the alive flies checked by my professor. She felt puzzled about how I nailed the answers so quick. I didn’t manage to complete this experiment because of a fly contamination that somehow took place in the lab. Fly contamination is common and it takes practise to find out how to stop them before they occur.

Now I must comment that despite all this intellect and motivation, I had to switch my careers a couple of times just to stay safe. Does that make any sense?

Furthermore, here is another interesting discovery. My ancestors are from India and I am a genius of some sort due to my lucid dreaming abilities—I clearly see how I saved one of my siblings from being kidnapped when I was just a teenager. I read AlJazeera’s article “India’s Child Geniuses” and found out that are many more geniuses who are currently being neglected in India. Don’t you feel dumbfounded now!

In addition, I must comment that I have heard how some geniuses are crazy people. But, I feel that I am being mislead on purpose. Geniuses aren’t crazy people especially not the geniuses who pray, which is because Islamic prayers are used to manage mental health issues. That’s why I always think, “Hell Yeah! This idiot is calling geniuses loonies because he/she does not know anything about how prayers work.”

Well! I don’t know how to help people who are halfhearted but I am sure that lucid dreaming can also cure this issue. You should enjoy the description of one of my lucid trains. I am hoping that people will start learning lucid dreaming instead of wasting their lives on porn, drugs, and alcohol. I mean if you are doing these things to feel real, then know that lucid dreams also make you feel very real.

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